Roly,
Thanks for the kind words. It's great to see some familiar names still here (plus some new ones!).
Good point on the 3D printing. So many cool/custom things you can make that way. For me, fiberglass is something I've done a fair bit of and I have the materials on hand; whereas 3D printing is mysterious and I don't have any supplies. Wish I did though! Maybe in future.
For this situation I think what would be perfect is a 90º elbow just like what was there originally, only with a hub (female) only on one side --- the side that connects to the incoming plumbing. Then on the side that goes into the tank, it could be like a street elbow (no hub, just pipe diameter) only it should be longer than normal. Long enough to go in through the grommet and then clear the inside of the grommet by maybe an inch or so [Edited to say: Or maybe only 1/2-3/4" -- I forgot this is also the vent, so any amount it sticks down into the tank is essentially lost capacity].
Then one could use a hub/hub Fernco on the crack-prone joint (which might actually be preferable to the original ABS/glue/ABS) and the other end could just cruise in through the grommet.
The "problem" with fiberglassing (and why I'm considering the short "vent" elbow instead) is that with fiberglassing it's easy to make one side smooth, but then you'd typically have more material on the second side. It has to be somewhere! But with this you don't really want extra material on the inside (water flow) or on the outside (grommet fitment). 3D printing would solve that - cool idea.
Here are the dimensions of the three common hub/hub ABS elbows. IIRC, Chinook used a normal sanitary ell there (so not a long sweep, and not a short turn either, but the middle bear). If I'm figuring it right, that means the short ell would gain about 3/4" in "height" for there to be pipe between the downturned hub and the grommet. So not the ideal gain, but better than nothing. Probably wouldn't be advisable if one is the type to fill both sink bowls to the brim and then pull the plugs simultaneously; but I think for most typical Chinook use it would be okay. This does carry the shower drain water too. However TP and other larger stuff of course doesn't take this route since it's going into the black tank. Wish it was more gain though. If Chinook had used a long sweep elbow (which should technically be used), then we could have gained more by switching to the short ell.

Maybe I'll re-visit my fiberglassing idea, with the idea of putting the extra material on the outside (where it would mash into the hub), but keeping it relatively thin and streamlined. Certainly would be an improvement over having a full sized hub crusing its way in there. Tho nothing changes the fact that there is very little vertical room to work with.
My other thought involved a Hepvo trap for the shower. I could see three advantages:
1) No water in there to freeze (because imagine the horrible project it would be if that shower trap froze).
2) I have had the shower trap siphon empty while driving, which allows grey tank odor into the rig -- doesn't happen with a Hepvo trap
3) That whole run could be basically tight to the floor (as it is right at the break/strap point). I guess that wouldn't totally change the problem of the elbow and the grommet clearance though.....
As a reminder, here is what we are working with. I note that the drain piping is also acting as the tank vent (but not via the proposed Hepvo leg, which is pure drainage).
First drawing is 1998 manual. Less cluttered as they don't show all the details of the pipe sizes. Blue area is the "mess" of pipes leading up to the crack-prone spot. Red arrow shows the exact crack spot.
Second drawing is the same area from the 2000 manual. A bit more cluttered but they show the pipe sizes and fitting types.
Lastly, a very clumsy drawing showing the concept of using a Hepvo trap on the shower. Not sure this really solves the "last drain elbow to hub" height problem though. So point #3 is less impactful. But might be something to consider if dropping the grey tank anyway. I haven't fully worked this out in my mind though, so it's just musing at this point.
BTW, if anyone is going to make an access hole for this project, I can give some measurements. I already made the four corner holes and cut through the first layer of flooring (which, I then found out, that the floor there - at least in a 1999 - from the top down is 1/2" plywood, 1/2" white bead type foamboard, (then I think I will find) 1/2" plywood, and a layer of fiberglass cloth/resin, tho I have not cut out the bottom plywood layer yet. I have cut the intial square out of the top layer, which I may or may not expand.
What I'm thinking is to make the top cut a little larger than the bottom one. Then epoxy cleats into the sides (between the two layers where the foam was), and then make up a "plug" that will be larger on the top than the bottom so it can't fall through. Then screw that down. Maybe there will be a next time and maybe there won't, but the plug shouldn't hurt anything if there isn't --- and if there is it will be there.
I've been thinking that first I will try to make the repair from the top (access hole). If it's too difficult (a little bit of it would still be under the shower so not 100% clear access), and the tank still needs to be dropped; then I think it would still be useful on the re-install to be able to have one person inside the rig pushing down on/steadying that elbow while the second person pushes the tank up from below. From the access hole one could also possibly guide the tank a bit so the elbow and the grommet line up, which the person wrestling with the tank would not be able to see at all.
BTW, how I figured out where to put the access hole was by a lot of measuring, then some really positive thoughts, then drilling an initial (forward/passenger side) hole all the way through and pushing a zip tie down into it, then going below and seeing where the zip tie came out (not in the elbow was the goal, success, whew). Then repeat for another zip tie for the second (aft/passenger side) point. The driver's side was then the same fore-and-aft and limited by the shower wall on the driver's side.