Okay, so here is what I have. Not that I'm saying my system is the best or even great (depending on usage) but it works and your uses don't sound so different from mine.
First of all, I pretty much removed all of the Chinook "big distribution" stuff. That is the brown box/breaker panels/ATS/big wires. Most of it was undersized for my purposes and either not fused or badly fused. The charger (or any one that would "drop in") wasn't adjustable enough for me.
I put the battery bank under the couch. It's 3, 125ah Lifeline AGM batteries, for 375 amp hours total. I would also consider two GPL-6CT 6 volt AGM's for a little bit less reserve (300ah).
I also built (in the same area) a distribution system with bus bars, switches, fuses that are fairly robust and to a reasonably safe standard (loosely modeled after ABYC boat standards). This is what the new charger, solar controller, combiner, and DC fuse panel connect to (in various ways). I used mostly Blue Sea stuff (switches, fuse blocks, bus bars), Ancor wire, FTZ lugs and crimps.
For the combiner wire I have a 1/0 positive wire from the start battery positive to the house bank main Class T fuse (so that fuse covers it at the house bank end). On the start battery I have a MRBF for that wire. I upgraded the two negative "leads" that go from each battery bank to the frame to complete the circle on that. I chose to use a manual switch for that, but could also have used a Blue Sea 7622. I just don't use it THAT often, and I like the control. Since it's not my principle method of charging, and since the alternator seems to put out between 13.6 and 14.2 volts, I don't condition it at all. I did end up using it this summer more than I ever had before and it was easily able to get my bank up to 85-90% charged (I know this because as soon as I would set up my solar panels they would go right into absorption phase, which starts at around 85%). So on balance I think I'd do the same again.
Solar controller: I joke that it's like dating - there is no perfect one. It's annoying, since, unlike people, there *could* be one solar controller that has it all, but there isn't AFAIK. So you have to pick your advantages and your poisons. Just to lightly touch on it:
1) Morningstar (I have one of these).
- Great history, great warranty, good MPPT performance, meter is good. Just a solid product. Area where wires go in is good. Has temp comp and larger ones have voltage sense. Good heat sink, easy mounting, no fans. Programming on smaller ones (like mine a 15 amp MPPT) is infuriatingly (for me) only via an annoying Windows program. End of absorption is very adjustable, but not as "dialed in" as end amps would be. The new (came out a year or two ago) larger controllers (25 amp and 40 amp) have a GREAT display that you can use to program as well (so nice) but it's not remote display (boo) (you can still use the basic remote display that I use). They take as much voltage as we would want (75 volts or more depending on model).
2) Blue Sky (have set them up for friends)
Great coordination between solar controllers if you use more than one, end amps which is GREAT for lead-acid batteries - the definitive way to have batteries fully charged. The display I find slightly annoying for having to scroll for what I want to see, but you can fully program the controllers with it. OTOH, where you attach the wires on the smaller units is super cramped and seems a tiny bit dodgy to me, and on the larger ones you can use large wires but I'm still not fond of the connection type. Also they are somewhat limited on voltage (you can squeak by putting two panels in series with the right panels, and if you don't charge on mornings below zero). The display is expensive because it is a shunt based meter as well (which is fine as long as you don't want a different shunt based meter and then you pay twice) (but this is what allows it to use end amps). They have remote temp comp but not voltage sense.
3) Midnite Solar (Don't have, but did order one and look at it before returning it).
I have a hard time getting past the styling, and the smaller units don't (or didn't) have a remote display (larger ones are too large, tare load, fans, etc.). They only accept small wires really close together on the smaller units. I have a feeling the controllers are fine, but those things cut it out for me.
4) Victron (I have one but not in my Chinook).
Oh so slick (I have one in my car). Super cool interface on your phone, works well with their other super slick products, very forward looking cool company. But I would not choose one anymore for lead-acid batteries. First of all they have never had remote temp comp (now you can get it by adding another product but come on that's a day late and a dollar short) and second of all I have found their "algorithm" (which decides how long to absorb) doesn't really get my batteries all the way charged. It stops too soon from what I have seen. No good way to adjust that that I've found. Small annoying wire attachment area. Now for lithium batteries (which is a focus of theirs to be fair) you don't need temp comp OR absorb times to speak of, so then yes. Even so, they aaare so slick. And blue.
5) Outback (have not tried)
Very nice units with great features but mostly they are large, use fans, etc. I don't see them as being great for our setups, as nice as they are (have not used one for this reason).
6) Xantrex
Have not tried.
So to summarize what do I look for:
1) MPPT
2) Good meter
3) Good support
4) Secure, confidence-inspiring way to attach wires, the larger the better
5) Remote temp comp (for lead-acid batteries)
6) Custom settings
7) Good heat sinkage
8) Ability to run higher voltage panels if desired
9) Non Windows way to do settings, if possible
10) Voltage sense is a plus but not a deal breaker
So what would I choose if I were you? Remind me the size solar array you are considering and tell me how much Windows annoys you and how much super slick phone apps thrill you
Shore charger: I have a ProMariner ProCharge Ultra 60 amp. I don't love it or hate it. It is fully programmable (although not idea for lithium but then few are and you don't have those anyway). The instructions are cringe-worthily ugly, as is the design, but I don't look at it very often, and it has the goods inside (note that you cannot program it from the remote). Other brands I would consider would be Blue Sea, Victron, etc. I wouldn't bother with a 60 amp unit if I were to do it again - I'd probably go 20-40 amps.
For monitoring I have the RM-1 meter that goes with my Morningstar 15 amp MPPT controller, a Balmar Smart Gauge, and a Victron BMV shunt based meter. I like info and they all do something a little bit different and complementary.
I won't go into wire sizes on my main distribution because it all depends on the amps you are running through it plus the length of the run.
What did I keep from the Chinook system? Pretty much all the small load wires (that run around the walls), although I "gained" two nice large ones by re-purposing the 8AWG that ran along the driver's side up to the batteries and the 8AWG that went over to the other side for the fridge. There were also two unused 12 AWG (if I remember the size correctly) that went up the two sides to the entertainment area that were not hooked up (presumably for some type of surround sound option). These all go to a Blue Sea 12 position blade fuse block. I also have a few blade fuses on my main load bus that I use for a few added things (wire for the BMV, power to my warning lights for my manual combiner, power for the fridge, an added 12 volt socket). I used a Blue Sea Safety Hub (150 model I think) for my main load bus.
I have two 100 watt solar panels set up as ground panels that I run in series on a 35' 8AWG wire (with an additional ~35' 10 AWG extension if necessary - that makes for more voltage drop but at that point it's that or nothing or I wouldn't be using the extension at all. Also with the panels in series I have plenty of voltage to work with). I plan to put 400 watts on the roof which means I can lazily leave the ground panels un-deployed much of the time (but I have made it just fine with only the 200 watts for five years - however being ground panels they are tilted and aimed better than roof panels would be - hence why more on the roof when I go roof panels). I am STILL waffling about what controller to use when I add those! Where is my perfect controller!?
I also kept the Chinook shore cord (although if I used shorepower more than once in a blue moon I'd change to a Smart Plug). For the AC panel basically the same as your Blue Sea one but with two sources so I could keep the generator if I wanted to (not that I have ever used it!). But I only needed four circuits anyway so no loss with that 8 position panel (two double pole breakers plus four single poles for loads). The manual select eliminates the need for an Automatic Transfer Switch.
A couple of years ago I thought about "why am I even keeping the generator?!" I had used a friend's generator for a couple of tasks and thought I might want to do them with mine. But we're literally talking about five times a year for ten minutes so that just seemed silly to haul around an entire gas engine for. So I came up with a plan, tested it out on buddy's rig (because he had all the components already there plus the meters to watch things) and it has worked great. What that is is that I put in a 1500 watt modified sine wave inverter. I only use it for like three things, and then run the engine (which pretty much makes it a wash). Note that I wouldn't do that on a very regular basis or for long, as engines are not meant to be idled as generators.
a) Heat gun for electrical work (have never found anything non-electric that really works well).
b) Multimaster or Router
c) Vacuum while using above tools (and for the carpet that I will be gleefully ripping out at some point so that will no longer be needed).
If it weren't for the above three I wouldn't even have it. But for those things it works beautifully (and was inexpensive to add). The only other uses I have for an inverter are covered with a 75 watt plug-into-cigarette-socket version. That is my toothbrush charger and an emergency backup 120 volt computer charge cord (normally I use 12 volt cord for that). Everything else I have is 12 volt (including charger for AA and AAA batteries, and cordless tool charger).
Now I've probably forgotten a bunch of things.
Again, not to say that what I have is perfect (some of it is still a work in progress), or that it suits anyone but me. There is no one best way. But your use case sounded close enough to mine that I figured it might be helpful. I would say the 225 amp hours of house bank might be a bit slim IF you were going to park for longer periods of time or stick in cloudy/rainy places but that doesn't sound like the case.
BG
PS: If you are going to do the big wire work yourself, I would highly recommend biting the bullet for the "big" FTZ Correct Crimp tool (non-ratcheting is fine), plus FTZ lugs, and dual wall heat shrink (plus a good small crimper and FTZ or other good adhesive heat shrink small crimps for 10AWG and smaller).
You can get someone like Genuine Dealz to make what you specify (and they do a great job), BUT to my mind nothing beats being able to make them as you go, AND with the big wires, being able to face the lugs the exact way you want them can really make a difference.